This is not a path that can be rushed. Finding the answers, coming to conclusions may take months, even years to figure out. From personal experience there is no time limit to this process. However it is within this learning process - an "in the meantime," an "in the valley," so to speak that you gain greater self-awareness, you get to know who you really are, how much courage you truly possess. You learn what you can live with and live without. Trust me it ain't all pretty. It's a time for crying, so have plenty of tissue on hand. It's a time for high anxiety, uptightness, agitation - stress. You will feel as if your nerves are literally unraveling. But you develop mental and emotional fortitude.
No matter how long the course takes I am convinced that you gain quantum benefits. You then realize that you can handle it. That there is no sense in "sweating the small stuff." Not that your learning, growing, develping is small stuff. You realize that life is a joy. You masterfully deal with "life on life's terms." And that my friends is one aspect of LIVING A CHARMED LIFE. Cheers!!